The following signs are evidence indicators of a healthy and productive co-parenting relationship. As you read them, consider what already works for you, as well as those areas you hope to improve. Parents who’ve reached a healthy level of communication know that they can count on the other parent to maintain his or her commitments unless something truly extraordinary requires a change in the routine. Even if you suspect that the same courtesy may not be returned to you, demonstrating the way you’d like things to be between you can be more effective than repeatedly telling them that the current arrangement isn’t working or displeases you. Some families may write this intention into their parenting plan, but whether you take that formal step or not, it’s just common courtesy to ask your ex if they would be willing to take the kids rather than leaving them with a sitter. In some cases, the use of a written parenting plan has helped co-parents reach this healthy level of communication. They recognize that their children need to have relationships with both parents and that their children’s affection for the other parent is no personal threat to them.
