Now the decision rests mainly with the families, social workers, and agencies involved. What issues should you consider before making the final decision to adopt transracially? Here are some questions to ask yourself.
How Will You Handle the Racism of Others?
Despite the huge changes in our world, racism is still out there. Are you prepared to handle questions from people, sometimes total strangers, about your child’s heritage or parentage? What about the opinions of your extended family? Unlike strangers where comments will be new, one usually knows what to expect from family. Will it bother you that an uncle uses racial slurs? How often do you see this person? Once a year? Is that often enough to sway your decision one way or another? Be aware of the fact that you may have to decide to limit contact with some members of your family to protect your child.
Questions About Your Community
It’s important that your child is able to connect with others of the same race, so you might consider the following:
What is the racial breakdown of your community?Are the schools diverse?Do you have friends of different races?Is there racial diversity in your house of worship?Do you know people who have adopted or married outside of their race?
The Child’s Culture
Some have said that when you adopt internationally you’re adopting both the child and their culture. You don’t have to change your entire life to accommodate this; however, it’s worth educating yourself and your child on their native history and culture.
Health, Skin and Hair Care
Each race has its own susceptibility to different medical problems. Have you educated yourself on the different medical and skin conditions that children of color may develop? Do you understand the different skin and hair care needs of people with darker skin tones and textures of hair?
Celebrating the Differences and the Similarities
Children begin to see that each person has different physical characteristics around the age of 3 or 4. One of the first things they notice is the color of the skin. It’s important for children to see people around them who look similar to themselves.
