Feeling Sexy
It can be really tough to feel sexy as a new mother. This may have nothing to do with your sex life; it is more connected to how you feel about your body. Giving birth changes how you feel about your body. You may feel very powerful and lovely after giving birth, or you might feel tired, run down, and out of shape. These are all normal variations. How you feel about your body may be very different from how your husband feels about your body. If you feel negative about your body, don’t keep repeating it out loud for others to hear. They may think you look great. The constant repetition will convince them they are wrong. Just remember sexy is more a state of mind than a physical state of being.
Date Nights
Date nights are simply times you carve out of your hectic life to be alone with your husband. This is a foreign concept to most postpartum families. However, it is a necessity to help you continue to strengthen your relationship with your husband. Dates do not have to happen at night, or even on the weekend. A date for you and your husband can simply consist of a few uninterrupted hours together. You can sit and talk over a quiet dinner out or curl up on your couch to watch television. This is not the time to do laundry or even answer the phone. You may choose a time when your baby is sleeping to reconnect with your husband. This option does not require that you hire help for the baby, but if the baby wakes up, this will certainly distract you from your date. Do whatever you can to limit distractions during these intimate times.
